Why Don’t I Know If I Want To Be A Mom?
Many women struggle with indecision and feel they should know what they want to do about
motherhood. It seems like everyone else knows! You’d be surprised how many women feel inadequate because they’re
undecided about becoming a mom. Since 1991, I’ve helped women with this
dilemma, and I’ve seen them move from indecision to certainty.
Some life choices become so difficult that we stop making them.
We stand still. But my practice has shown that we can work our way out of
paralysis and live our lives as fuller human beings. Over the years, I’ve
noticed some patterns emerge that help me guide each woman to resolution.
There are very few places to talk freely about what it means to
be a mom. We’re taught early on through dolls, fairy tales and games that we
should want to be mothers; yet, when
we propose the possibility of a child-free life, we’re judged immediately. With
no room left for exploration of our feelings, isolation becomes the norm, and
we feel like outcasts. Only with honest discussion can we move through the
process of making a decision that feels right for us.
Another reason doubt occurs comes from childhood messages still
playing in our minds. I’ve heard women say, “I had a happy childhood, and my
parents loved me.” Even if that’s true, you may have received some messages
unintentionally that left you feeling confused or insufficient, but no one was
available to help your child’s mind dismiss those feelings. We’ve all been
hurt. As we mature, we learn how to tolerate our pain and still thrive. Sadly,
pain in childhood can sometimes be a barrier that gets in the way of our
knowing who we really are.
You don’t have to figure this question out alone. Join me in the
unique Motherhood — Is It For Me? ™ program. Since my years
of experience have taught me how to guide women with compassion and
understanding, I know I can also help you end the cycle of indecision.
Ann Davidman, MS, MFT
Marriage Family
Therapist
Contact me if you would like a
free 20-minute ‘Get Clarity’ Session to
determine your next step.
510-595-4629
Oakland, California, USA
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